SKELETONS IN MY CLOSET ARE DYING TO GET OUT.
You've got
This is why I'm coming clean.
My husband's first run in with the law 15 years ago plunged our family into a perpetual state of crisis, and it gets worse with each subsequent prison term.
We’ve lost our savings, jobs, home and almost our children. We see no light at the end of the tunnel still.
Our children are not spared from this callous attitude. Parents of friends who knew of their father's incarceration would not let them associate. No more going to each other's houses.
The stats look grim. But why?
in
returns to prison within
years of release
People say we've brought these upon ourselves because they occurred as a result of my husband's offending and my choice to stay married to him subjected me to these events.
We've lost almost everything.
There's more compassion for stray animals.
I'm married to a criminal offender.
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There's more compassion for stray animals.
Crime and punishment is not a matter solely among offender and criminal justice. The immediate family members of the offenders have long been neglected yet are significant.
The stats look grim, so does our future.
Incarceration Earlier Age
More Significant For Daughters
Maternal Incarceration Earlier Age
Recidivism Rate
Intergenerational Offending
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returns to prison within
years of release
Parent Child
I Married A Criminal Offender.
Post prison release, within
years > in returns.
years in returns.
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Barring threats of harm, where non-compliance could result in serious injury, the extent to which a person can be influenced to commit a crime by their peers, depends on how much they can relate to those influencing them. That is, how much they have in common.
The approximately 10,000 prison admissions each year affect a similar number of families; parents, partners, siblings and children who would face complex challenges as a result of the incarceration of their kin. Forced separation and broken attachments, burden of increased roles and responsibilities, disruption in education and employment, financial difficulties, reduced opportunities, bullying and abuse, restricted welfare support, not to mention the emotional, psychological and physiological toil. Under the weight of these, marriages can break down and parent-child relationship
They are parents, spouses, children, siblings and anyone whose life closely intertwines with the offender, and are greatly impacted.
I'm married to a criminal offender.
Once you go to prison, there's a chance it happens again within years of your release and within years.
My husband's first run in with the law 15 years ago plunged our family into a perpetual state of chaos, and it gets worse with each subsequent prison term.
We’ve lost our savings, jobs, home and almost our children. We see no light at the end of the tunnel still.
We've lost everything.
Like most others, I used to blame my husband for our predicament, for if he did not offend, we wouldn't be in such a state, right?
Well, I've come to realise that's not the case. I mean, how does the logical reasoning for this even go, if you even attempt to contemplate this earnestly.
There are many contributing factors in a chain of cause and effect to reach the state we're at. Many of them are outside the control of the offender and there are more parties involved than the offender alone.
It's really not what you think and I'm here to set the record straight.
that this 'blame the offender' syndrome does more harm than good, as it contributes to offending. Of course most people will find this assertion of mine ludicrous but I'll set the record straight.
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He's in prison for the 3rd time.
Once you go to prison, the chance it occurs again is
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> 40% 5
within years
within years
Is Singapore Prison Service's methods throughcare approach in rehabilitating inmates effective?, and works with Yellow Ribbon Singapore (YRSG), community partners and volunteers. Is it working?
Is it because ex-offenders are unrepentant, recalcitrant, social misfits, being negatively influenced by peers or have too much free time on their hands?
These are what you've been made to believe all these while. While they may ring true for some people, but they do not represent every offender and does not reveal the root of the problem.
I foresee it won't be his last.
Because environment is greater than willpower and it isn't good.
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A previous term in the prison environment.
A return to the same family environment.
What type of environment awaits the inmate post release?
The family environment is crucial in supporting its family members' goal achieving process just as it determines their potential for criminal behaviour.
The professional and social environments What type of environment awaits the inmate post release?
The 3 Stages Of Crime And Punishment.
Families of offenders pay the price when it's not their crime.
Each year, nearly
families are affected by a kin's prison admission.
10,000
A brush with the law impacts not just the offender but the family members, often in life-changing ways, making it seem as if they are concurrently punished.
The effects of it last beyond the imprisonment term, continuing past the punishment.
This is the family environment the offender returns to post release from prison.
In fact their challenging circumstances could have begun prior to the arrest of their kin.
To date, most of what is delved into regarding the family's role in contributing to their kin's offending is their propensity for criminality and anti-social behaviours.
Youths from families with criminality background are times more likely to offend, youngest to youngest increased risk to
There's little sympathy for offenders. Society wants them to prove they are deserving, before help is extended, even when they are in dire straits. It's like expecting the lame to walk as an able person, before crutches are offered.
Our children just might beat him to offending 1st.
times more likely to offend, youngest to offend
The 3 Stages Of Crime And Punishment.
Families of offenders are deemed guilty by association.
Stigma
To date, most of what is delved into regarding the family's role in contributing to their kin's offending is their propensity for criminality and anti-social behaviours.
Stigma
Our children just might beat him to offend 1st.
There's little sympathy for offenders. Society wants them to prove they are deserving, before help is extended, even when they are in dire straits. It's like expecting the lame to walk as an able person, before crutches are offered.
For most, a brush in with the law has 3 stages of development, all of which create the conditions for future offending.
Society has the least compassion towards offenders.
Families are
Families of offenders are deemed guilty by association.
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